Narcissism vs. Self-love, Self-worship and Self-affirmation

Hi guys,

Perhaps those of you who love to masturbate like me have heard over the years that masturbation, besides being immoral or bad, is immature or infantile. I know for my own experience when I discovered the glories of masturbation as an adolescent that my mother and my physician tried to lay these guilt trips on me. Such guilt nearly undid me physically then. But deep down inside, I felt that masturbation was "good" for me and that was "right".

Let me explain. In a previous post in this blog I described the guilt trip that religion lays upon guys who like to masturbate. The medical guilt trip has its origin in the theories of Sigmund Freud. It is expressed in one word, Narcissism. There are several informative wikipedia articles on Narcissism. I would have to agree that pathological narcissism is at the heart of many criminal acts. A pathological narcissist is a person totally into him/herself to exclusion of others in that such a person doesn't have any empathy or concern for other people. This is well known by criminologists and criminal profilers.

I hereby cite the definition for this word as given in Dictionary.com Unabridged :

"nar·cis·sism /ˈnɑrsəˌsɪzɛm/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[nahr-suh-siz-em] Pronunciation Key - Show IPA Pronunciation
–noun
"1. inordinate fascination with oneself; excessive self-love; vanity.
"2. Psychoanalysis. erotic gratification derived from admiration of one's own physical or mental attributes, being a normal condition at the infantile level of personality development."

No. 2 of this definition, at least part of it, "erotic gratification derived from admiration of one's own physical or mental attributes", perhaps describes the personality of the true masturbator. When a guy masturbates he is making an intimate connection with his body in that he loves himself, worships himself, and affirms himself. But it goes even farther than that. I mean there are antecedents which leads up to a masturbation session far before. A man will care for his mind, body, and soul by proper nutrition, rest, and exercise of his mind and body. I think the ancient Greeks had it right now in the saying, "Mens sana in corpore sano", "A healthy mind in a healthy body". The ancient Greeks saw the value of a healthy diet and an athletic regimen. This aided them in their intellectual pursuits in the life of the mind. But I think it is carried over into their sexual lives in that they didn't do anything to excess.

The true masturbator, while he may have long masturbation sessions lasting several hours or even a day on occasion, realizes that there are limits. The limits are programmed in our bodies so that the penis naturally knows limits for masturbation. Of course, today we have recreational drugs such as crystal meth or ecstacy which enhance the intensity and duration of sex, but which are highly addictive and have a corrosive affect on the mind and body. The true masturbator resorts to natural means for his sexual expression, and that means limits built into his body.

All the same, a guy into masturbation, who is in touch with his body and certainly his penis, his testicles, his prostate, and subsidiary sexual apparatus will achieve ecstasy in self-love, self-worship, and self-affirmation as given in the title of this blog posting.

Take care.